Tuesday, March 31, 2009
The best things in life are free.....response to the new economy
Yesterday my husband, son and I played imaginary instruments to a John Mayer song. Smiles were exchanged, funny “rock band” faces were imitated and laughter ensued. We simply enjoyed one another.
This past Christmas our 5 year old son was in charge of decorating the tree (why not, the only reason we still get one is for him). The three of us worked together to position it, install the lights and place the 6 bulbs that my son deemed appropriate. We then turned off the lights, played Nat King Cole’s Christmas album and held one another on the couch. Priceless…
I thank God for my country and want to see us succeed. But perhaps the lesson during this temporary economic downturn is to refocus ourselves for the REAL important things in life.
Monday, March 23, 2009
Spring has Sprung....now let's get moving
- See your doctor before starting any fitness program
- Exercise at least 3 days a week, walking 30 minutes a day is a great way to start
- Take a good multivitamin
- Eat just one more serving of fruits and veggies than you did last week
- Eliminate at least two servings sugary snacks and fast food meals
- Get a water bottle and keep it near your work space, it will improve your water intake.
Make Fitness a Family Affair
- Go for after dinner walks with the entire family
- Get those bikes out and ride the trails in a park
- Dust off those tennis rackets and show the kids how its done
- Dance around the house, enjoy yourself and enjoy your children
Sunday, March 15, 2009
We need to laugh....
Yes, parenthood changes everything. But parenthood also changes with each baby. Here are some of the ways having a second and third child differs from having your first:
Your Clothes
1st baby: You begin wearing maternity clothes as soon as your OB/GYN confirms your pregnancy.
2nd baby: You wear your regular clothes for as long as possible.
3rd baby: Your maternity clothes ARE your regular clothes.
Preparing for the Birth
1st baby: You practice your breathing religiously.
2nd baby: You don't bother practicing because you remember that last time, breathing didn't do a thing.
3rd baby: You ask for an epidural in your 8th month.
Pacifier
1st baby: If the pacifier falls on the floor, you put it away until you can go home and wash and boil it.
2nd baby: When the pacifier falls on the floor, you squirt it off with some juice from the baby's bottle.
3rd baby: You wipe it off on your shirt and pop it back in.
Sleeping
1st baby: Sleeps in your bedroom for the first six - eight weeks 2nd baby: Sleeps in your bedroom for the first two weeks 3rd baby: Goes right from the hospital nursery into their own room.
Sunday, March 8, 2009
Are we neglecting our children?
- Make sure you have discussions that involve eye contact. Ask open-ended questions that initiate a discussion. Yes, I know your 4 year olds conversation about his space trip is illogical, but it means something to him. Your 2 year olds discussions are half gibberish but she is practicing -- let her.
- Hug, hold and rock your child. Without the human touch some children have died. Touch is nourishment to all humans (not only babies). Try gently massaging your child, use oil or lotion.
- Play with your child. Let them use their imagination to transport you to a different time and place. Play a board game, Candyland or Trouble. Play catch or go bowling.
- Take your child to Well child checkups. A general timetable is:
- 2 days old
- 2 weeks old
- 1 month old
- 2 months old
- 4 months old
- 6 months old
- 9 months old
- 12 months old
- 15 months old
- 18 months old
- 2 years old, thereafter annually
Monday, March 2, 2009
The Sudden Death of a Mother
- Teach children that death is part of life in an age-appropriate manner. When autumn arrives use the falling leaves. When the gold fish dies talk about the cycle of life.
- When informing a child of a passing be clear but gentle. If possible, begin preparing the child when the loss is inevitable.
- Try not to attach a single person, place or thing to the death. If the child attaches the doctor to a death, they will be afraid to go to the doctor.
- Consider visiting a grief counselor or religious leader.
- When a death occurs don't hide all of your grief. Express your grief and allow the child to express theirs.
- Let the child see adults coping with the loss, working through the pain.
- Take good care of the child and try to keep their daily life as normal as possible. As we know children need love, safety and security.
- If anger is expressed, guide the child to a constructive and harmless manner in expressing it. A pillow fight, punch a boxing bag, running, etc.
- Engage in activities that keep the child moving through the grief process and lead to the acceptance of the loss.
- Come to a place where the person's life can be honored and celebrated. The memories will last forever.